Getting help is vital during this time. Caregiving does not have to be all or nothing. Having respite so one can go to work, go to the market, go out with a friend, or even take a nap is important. Starting out with a few hours of help per week may be the answer.  When interviewing for an in-home caregiver, contact at least three care giving agencies or private care givers. Ask each the same questions so you can compare answers. Be aware that the first person who comes into your home may not work out. Do not get discouraged. It sometimes takes a few tries to find the right fit. Make a list of the needs of your loved one—meal preparation, personal hygiene, personal safety, medication reminders, transportation, etc. Create a job description. Put together a routine that will make your family member as comfortable with the caregiver as possible. Spend time with the caregiver, orienting him or her to the home and surroundings. Tell them the likes and dislikes of their new client. Work with the caregiver to plan activities that allow your loved one to keep active throughout the day.